Patience is a virtue. And when it comes to sex, it’s a must-have for good sex. Because sex is a journey, not a race.
I don’t mean you should take forever to get to the point, but rather that you should be able to read your partner’s body language and communicate with them about what they want from the experience.
You need to be able to gauge whether they are enjoying themselves, and if not, what needs to change.
And then once you have figured out what needs changing, make it happen.
Are you good in bed? 6 signs you’re an amazing sex partner
1. You talk about sex
- You view sexual communication as an important part of understanding and learning about each other. You appreciate the role of sexual communication before, after, and during sex, and you do it without being long-winded or belaboring your point.
- You know how to listen to your partner and make them feel heard, even if you don’t agree with them
- Being good in bed means that you’re not only giving your partner pleasure but that you’re doing it in a way that makes them feel heard and respected.
- Listening is a crucial part of good sex, and it’s something that can be difficult to master.
2. You’re generous in bed
- Sex is about mutual giving, pleasing, and receiving. That’s why you take pride in pleasing your partner. You want both of you to take all the time needed because sex is meant to be fun, enjoyable, and pleasurable.
3. Lights ON during Sex
- You’re comfortable being naked and playful in the bedroom because you love and accept all parts of your body. You understand that when you’re completely comfortable with yourself, your partner is more likely to be comfortable with you.
4. You don’t get intimidated by sex toys
- You welcome sexual aids and sexual variety because they’re there to support your sexual expression – they don’t replace you. You’re confident of what you bring to the sexual encounter with or without sex toys.
- Laughing about sex is a sign that you’re comfortable enough with each other and your own sexuality to have fun with it.
- They say if you don’t laugh when you’re doing it, you’re doing it with the wrong person.
5. You’re open to trying new things
- The same old can become routine. You don’t want to do things for the sake of doing them! That’s why you’re open to your partner proposing new things. You share your fantasies and encourage your partner to do the same.
- You’re not afraid to ask for what you want, but you always make sure it’s okay with your partner first
- Being able to communicate openly about what you want and need is a sign that you’re comfortable enough with yourself and your partner to be able to articulate your needs.
6. You’ve been told so
- One of the clearest ways to know you’re good in bed is if multiple sexual partners have expressed this to you. It’s their opinion and it’s meant to be a compliment, so there’s no need to second guess or doubt them. Embrace it!
Being good in bed means knowing how to be there for your partner, giving them your full attention—and your body—and making them feel like they’re the only person in the world.
